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Organic Holiday Savings!

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As the holidays approach, I find myself spending a lot less time writing and a lot more time balancing regular life with a crazy holiday schedule. Also, I’ve been thinking a lot about saving money where I can I so that I have a little extra for those special treats and gifts we associate with the holidays. Here are some of the tips we’re using this holiday.

1. Plan ahead and shop with a list.
First of all, planning means less “emergency” trips to the grocery store. Plus, you’ll be less likely to grab impulse items as you’re coasting through the store.

2. Make it from scratch now and freeze it.
This works for a number of things, from poultry stock (chicken stock) to cookie dough and even pie crust (keeps frozen up to a month).

3. Plan some simple, healthy and inexpensive dinners that will allow you to spend more at the holiday.
We are making a lot of bean soups right now. Our kids really like them and we can include a lot of veggies to boost their little immune systems. We use our homemade chicken stock as a base and go from there. Soups can also be frozen and thawed for a quick meal with corn bread or a crusty loaf of sourdough.

4. Take advantage of good warehouse or bulk deals.
While we shop local whenever possible, we also take advantage of bulk buying clubs like Costco to stay within our budget. This is how we can be an organic family in a big city where access to affordable, local and organic products are not always so easy to find.

This week’s great buy was dairy products from Costco. We make it a point to try to go organic on dairy products like butter, cream (for Robert’s coffee), and eggs. Here’s a great example of warehouse savings. This week, I bought 64 oz of organic whipping cream for $2.99! That’s 1/2 gallon of cream. We’re all set for pie.

Compare that to the Land o’ Lakes non-organic canned whipped cream selling just down the aisle – 3/14 oz cans for $8.89. I’m not sure how to fairly compare these because one is already whipped but if you just do a oz to oz comparison, I saved about $10 on whipping cream alone.

Isn’t it amazing to know that for some items, you could actually buy organic for less than you’d spend on conventional?  It’s not too late! Get out that list and shop smart this season. Costco also carries organic veggies like spinach, lettuce and carrots as well as frozen organic veggies like corn and green beans.

Last year, I showed you how to make your own homemade whipping cream.  It’s super easy and takes just a few minutes. The video is kind of funny because we decided to do it on my husband’s droid – and we didn’t have a way to edit it at home to take out the noise. Hope you get a kick out of it – but most of all, I hope you give making homemade whipped cream a try.

We had trouble uploading the video this morning but you can watch it over at my old blog.

Once you learn to whip it, you will never go back!!
Bwahahahaha!!!

Want to be a Better Parent? Me too!

By | Honest Mothering, Parenting | 4 Comments

Why does parenting seem, at times, to bring out the worst in us? Why is it so hard to stay patient when we’re dealing with the people we love most in all the world? When they’re born, we can’t imagine ever being angry or annoyed with them. But when our kids arrive at a place somewhere between 2 and 2 1/2, a switch goes off in most moms. It’s the “What will people think of me when they see you acting this way?” switch.

I’ve been there too. I’m here daily. Kids have a knack for picking the most inopportune moments to pitch a fit or decide they’re not going to listen. I lose my cool and find myself communicating at a decibel level that cannot fairly be described as “speaking”. When I’m that upset, I’m not sure what I’m doing can really be described as communicating. In truth, I’m not sure what my kids can hear when I’m that upset!

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately and trying to figure out how to reset my approach to my kids. Here’s what I’ve observed.

1. I am a better parent when I get adequate sleep. Does it seem like I write about sleep a lot? That’s because since having kids, I don’t get enough. If I don’t sleep 7.5-8 hours of sleep a night, I’m not ok. You might think I’m functional at first glance but a deeper glance into my scowling eyes will convince you to WALK AWAY! I’m learning that getting enough sleep is truly my choice. It’s probably yours too.

2. I am a better parent when I take time to be “Monna”. Since I’ve been so nauseous during this pregnancy (as with my others), I’ve found it hard to go out for my weekly break alone. All work and no play make me a very dull girl! It’s essential to my mental health – and yours.

3. I’m a better parent when I get regular exercise. Do you feel like I harp on this? That’s ’cause I do! Exercise is great for the body AND the soul. Getting fresh air alone or with a friend restores our sense of perspective and physically moves stress out of our cells. More importantly, it imbues us with strength. What’s a little mess to a woman who’s just hiked a mountain or conquered the road cycling or running?

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Not-so-random-thought

Let me just break in a moment here and make an observation. Have you noticed that pregnancy is one of the only times in a woman’s life when we actually take care of ourselves? Our hormones FORCE us to listen to our needs. We get more sleep, eat regularly and generally take better care of ourselves because we know we must for our baby’s sake.

Yet, how much would we and our current family members benefit if we were to choose this daily? This is a must for moms & dads!

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4. I’m a better parent when I maintain my sense of humor and flexibility. I know, I know. Easier said than done, right? Prior to kids, I found it so much easier to keep a regular schedule and be on time. But last minute diaper changes, lost shoes and a two year old’s brilliant idea to unravel an entire roll of toilet paper just before it’s time to leave can unsettle even the best laid plans. I can be angry or be prepared for the diaper change, plan an earlier departure time (for next time) and leave the toilet paper on the floor till we return.

5. I’m a better parent when I’m consistent with my kids.  I haven’t always been very good at this. At times it was because I was tired, distracted or just unsure of how to be consistent without resorting to disciplinary measures that I oppose, like spanking. My sister recently gave me some good advice when I confided that my previously compliant, if impishly precocious, Destructo Girl (2yo)  had decided she didn’t need to obey me anymore (as in – ever!)

“Whatever discipline you choose, do it calmly and every time she doesn’t listen.”

I took her advice and it’s made a huge difference. I chose “time outs” and within two days, DG went from constantly bucking me to listening when I speak. I feel better and I think DG does too. I’m not saying we won’t face more challenges. But, when we do, I’ll be ready to follow up with her every time.

6. I’m a better parent when I choose not to be defined by my children’s behavior. Parenting is all about teaching children how to navigate all that life entails – including making mistakes in public! Allowing myself to be “embarrassed” when my child makes a bad choice or a mistake doesn’t benefit either of us and may waste a teachable moment. It’s our job as parents to teach our kids to live wisely and well.

I’m still learning how to make the best choices and I appreciate compassion over anger every time!

Apply appropriate discipline, then grab your little person and hug them. Reassure them (and yourself) that mistakes are normal and they’ll do better next time. Help them make a plan to be successful!

Since becoming a parent, I’ve realized that much of the discipline parenting requires is mine. Being a good parent isn’t just a 9-5 task, it’s 24/7. We don’t get to come home at night at take a break. When we’ve finished our “adult” day and feel ready to sit down and take a load off, our kids are about ready to melt down too and need our full attention. Taking care of ourselves so we can be disciplined enough to maintain a sense of humor, flexibility and consistency is no small task. But the truth is, applying that discipline to ourselves is the only way we can really teach it to our kids.

Good thing I got a great night’s sleep last night. I’m ready to work on it!

Natural Diaper Rash Remedies

By | Diapering, Natural Health | 4 Comments

Welcome to POOP 101, otherwise known as The Secrets of Healing Diaper Rash. That red, hot, often broken skin is terrible to see on a baby’s bum. Unfortunately, the combination of bacteria, friction, moisture and heat all pressed against baby’s bum in a leak proof package creates the perfect breeding ground for a nasty rash. Sensitive skin makes it even worse. Yet, there are natural remedies for diaper rash and they’re easier than you think.

We all know about diaper cream but what’s the alternative?  I’ve learned a lot since I first started diapering babies.

First, there is an alternative to diapering with cloth or paper.
In many parts of the world, moms train their babies from birth to eliminate on cue into a toilet instead of in their “unders”. And while teaching babies to eliminate on cue isn’t ‘potty training’, it does keep your baby from learning to defecate in their pants. Instead of changing a dirty diaper, you simply catch the mess in advance. It saves money on diapers and makes it less likely that your baby will get diaper rash. I don’t do it all the time but I have done it and it works! If you’re interested, check out http://www.diaperfreebaby.org

We’ve used cloth and paper diapers and contrary to popular belief, diapering with either can cause rashes.

Problems with cloth diapers include – friction, heat, soap retention & detergents containing enzymes.

Problems with paper diapers can include friction, too drying (wicking material!) and material/chemical sensitivity. Some contain latex. We never even thought about this with our latex sensitive, eldest child. She had a lot of rashes as a baby. Boy, was I upset to learn this after the fact!

I’ve learned, the sooner I address a diaper rash, the better.

There are times diaper rashes are more likely to happen. When I pay attention, I can head the rash off before it starts.

Things that make diaper rashes more likely include anything that increases heat or friction or changes the frequency and ph of poop – such as…

Gastroenteritis. Nothing like frequent diarrhea to make a little baby’s bum raw and miserable.
Teething – all that drool that babies create while teething contributes to more frequent stools. You’ll learn to recognize this. It’s not diarrhea but it’s looser than regular poop and has a kind of “sandy” texture to it.
Summer – In our experience, summer heat speeds up the progression of a rash.

So here are the steps I take as soon as I see that bum looking slightly pink or raw.

Take action immediately.
Every moment counts. Ok – lil’ bit dramatic but it’s real. Diaper rashes can go from bad to worse quickly when ignored. Instead of a slightly pink bum, they can become a stubborn yeast rash or, worst case, a staph infection. Trust me, it’s easier to kick it as soon at “slightly pink”.

Lose the wipes and rinse with water
Yep. You heard me. Wipes contain soap and irritate sore skin. How would you like someone wiping soap all over a rash on your most tender spots? Do you know that the human race has survived for thousands of years without disposable wipes? I know. Crazy but true.

I gently wipe off any solid stuff and rinse with water. When we’re home, we rinse our baby’s behind in the sink, bathtub or with our diaper sprayer. Toddlers usually think this is hilarious. A gentle hand is the best tool for ensuring that a baby’s squishy bum is completely clean. Plus, it won’t irritate like a washcloth. And I carefully pat dry with a soft cloth. When we’re out in public, we take a water squirt bottle and some gentle cloth wipes with you. A cut up flannel baby blankie works great.

Moisturize the skin
Next, I apply coconut oil to the affect area. It’s healing, anti-fungal and moisturizing without being too oily.

But keep the yucky moisture away from the bum.
Gently pat some cornstarch or arrowroot powder on the rash

You can buy cornstarch in any supermarket and arrowroot is not hard to find in natural food stores. They’re both cheap and work well. This is best if the skin isn’t broken (it shouldn’t be if you take action immediately). It will dry the beginnings of the rash out – like a charm.

*A friend told me that she thinks cornstarch can feed a yeast rash so if a rash is thick, raised and red, I would go for the arrowroot instead.

What???” You may be asking.

What about Diaper cream?”
My mom and my mom’s mom used xyz cream for every diaper rash! They swear by it!

Well, if that’s working for you, go for it.

I try not to use diaper creams for two reasons. First, it’s my experience that most of the time, diaper cream isn’t needed if you follow these first few steps right away. (Of course there are exceptions).

The other reason I don’t often use diaper cream is that diaper cream is often mineral oil based (it’s meant to keep moisture off the bootie) but it also traps moisture and bacteria if you haven’t carefully rinsed it and it can make things go from bad to worse fast.

Let my baby go au naturel ( especially in sunlight for some healing Vitamin D) for a while or loosely fasten a fresh diaper his bum.

Just put a towel under them to catch the drips. The idea is to let the air get to the sore spot and heal it. The faster it dries out, the less likely it is to develop into something serious.

Change the diaper as soon as it’s wet or soiled
I can’t emphasize this enough.

Remember –

Bacteria + moisture + heat + friction = diaper rash

Hope this is helpful for you mamas dealing with diaper rash. If a baby’s rash has progressed past this first stage, I would still use these steps to speed healing.

Here’s to healthy little, rash free bums!

*this post is updated, thanks to the wisdom of friends and my own experience!

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Love and Coffee

By | Spirit | 3 Comments

As the earliest glimpses of light peeks in through the window

The laughter of a small voice gurgles across the silence of the room

Daddy sleeps on as she nears the bed

“Mommy, I want to snuggle you.”

I lift the covers and she slips inside them.

Even as I bury my face back in the pillow

I know I seek something I won’t find again today

“Here, read this book.”

“I need some water.”

She’s nothing if not persistent

but still I try, hoping for one last glimpse of Nod.

“Mom, it’s morning time!!!”

Her voice exultant

her confidence buoyed by the brilliance now streaming into the room

Despite my exhaustion

I find myself smiling

and chuckling at her exuberance to begin the day

of breakfast

and big sister

and a magical world of her making.

I get up and discover I feel ok.

Love is definitely stronger than coffee.