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Book Review: The Help, Kathryn Stockett

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I’ve spent the last week reading a book I borrowed from the friend of a friend. I became so engaged in the story that I thought of it every day until I could get back to it again. The book is called, The Help. Kathryn Stockett’s book of historical fiction, set in Mississippi during the early days of the 1960’s, doesn’t focus much on the dangerous physical brutality of the Civil Rights movement. Instead, she sets out to tell the story of the tenuous relationships between the white women of Jackson, Mississippi and the black women who served them every day.

The Help gives us a glimpse into the lives of Southern women, black and white, who were raised to follow a certain set of unwritten social rules related to race. One of the main characters, Skeeter, has a burning desire to become a writer. Her first attempt is a secretly and anonymously written collection of stories by the black women of the town who serve the white women, many of whom are Skeeter’s friends. As she gathers the stories, she soon learns that the connections between those serving and the served are not nearly as clear cut as she’d believed. Her own bonds with the white community begin to change as she finds the courage to follow her own convictions, buoyed by the strength of the women whose stories she’s writing.

The book, published in 2009, received positive reviews like this one in The Washington Post and this one at The Huffington Post. However, other reviewers like this one in the California Literary Review and this blogging mom raise concerns about a white author telling this story, intimating that Stockett’s characters rely too heavily on stereotypes. They draw comparisons between Stockett and Skeeter and their similar backgrounds and career choices and criticize Stockett’s use of vernacular when writing the dialogue of the African American women.

While I understand those comments, I feel that Ms. Stockett has written a story worth reading. First, it does something that made me choose history as a major in college. It brings dates and events to life by telling the STORY of the kind of people who lived them. Not only did I feel a real connection to the women in those pages, I gained a deeper understanding of a social situation I’m not unfamiliar with since I  live in Arizona, a border town hot with immigration issues.

Kathryn definitely knows how to write a story that touches the emotions. I laughed out loud more than once. I cried, I felt guilty. And, I alternately admired and feared for the courageous women who sought to tell their story. When I put the book down, I had that satisfying sensation I get after feeling my mind and heart have been stretched in a new way. Most importantly, Kathryn has written a good story. Unfairly “vernacular-ed”or not, it has the possibility to engage readers in a topic they might never have considered otherwise.

This review is a little late since the book came out last year but I was busy with a three month old at the time.  I’m guessing some of you are as behind in your reading as I am! If you haven’t already read it, take the time to check it out. Especially some of you dear friends whose eyes glaze over when I talk passionately about history. THIS is why. It’s just someone’s story – and it is as worthy of reading as yours is.

If you have a favorite book, add it to the comments list! I’m back on the reading wagon.

A Day of Remembrance

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 Photo by Brian Kunnari
 

My father was born in 1929 and started his second family (the one I was born into) when he was in his forties – so he always more personal view into the events of the last 100 years than my friends’ fathers. He was not an “I walked 10 miles through snow to get to school” kind of guy but rather a person interested in all of life and particularly the stories of people. Through him, I was introduced to the cars, movie stars and quite of bit of history related to WWII, cowboys (his father was one), early days in Arizona and other major historic events. His influence is probably why I chose to study history in college.

One of the events he used to talk about with a rather hushed tone was the death of President John F. Kennedy. Dad was a Republican by registry but a passionate American by birth. He always said he remembered exactly where he was and what he was doing when he heard about the death of President Kennedy. Everything and everyone just stopped and stayed glued to their television screens when the news broke. Little did I imagine that anything in my lifetime would be so awe inspiring and horrific as to make the same impression on me.

Nine years ago today, as I drove to work I realized that I’d neglected to turn my radio dial the previous night. Consequently, I discovered I was listening to Howard Stern, who I despised. He was ranting and yelling and saying “We should bomb them all!”. I changed the station to news and pieced together the events of the morning. When I arrived at work, it was with a heavy heart. I found myself weeping throughout the day as my team attempted to continue working while taking breaks to view the latest news on our television.

Photo by Brian Kunnari

I will never forget the grief and loss I felt as I thought of those people who’d gone to work that morning thinking they’d be home that night and their loved ones who never saw them again. I will never forget those who boarded a plane and showed incredible courage as they determined that if they were going to die, they would go down fighting – and save lives doing it. I will never forget the outpouring of support we received from all over the world – and which I personally felt all day as I spoke to our international customers. I will never forget the way we who lived here exhibited the unique nature of the American spirit – independent yet united in our love of freedom and willingness to help neighbors in need.

I, like my dad, now have a day clearly etched in my memory as a day we all stood still to grieve a collective loss. While I long to wish it away, I also remember that we then showed the best of what we have to offer as Americans. I am grateful to be part of the living memory and will always honor this day and those who were lost to us.

Summertime break!

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It’s been a while since I posted. For some reason, when summer arrived this year, I found myself in a place where regular blogging became impossible or maybe just too exhausting. We started our summer with a lovely trip to Colorado and helping some friends out with their hobby farm. But, then, things got crazy when my husband spent two weeks playing music at two different youth camps. When he returned home, he spent another week in the studio. For those unfamiliar with music life, this means he worked his day job, then went straight to the studio till 1 or 2 in the morning. I don’t know how he kept up that schedule because just being home with two girls, 24/7 for three weeks straight exhausted me!

So, it’s no surprise I didn’t blog much at the beginning of the summer. As it progressed though, I got engrossed in the fun of swimming pools, hiking and playing with friends and family and making some significant personal changes (more on that later!). Today, I just wanted to say that I’m still here and I’ll be back to writing regularly and sharing some new adventures soon!

Colorado

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My husband’s cell pic of our gorgeous view of the sky as we traveled.

Today we returned from a much needed family vacation. Since we want our girls to grow up seeing the amazing country in which we live, we decided to drive to our destination in Colorado. It was a long trip but our kids did great! Our oldest did get a little tired of driving and finally said at the end of the first day, “Mom, I need to sleep in a REAL bed!” Around the same time, our 17 month old decided to amuse herself by screaming at the top of her lungs and laughing hysterically – for A HALF HOUR! Our ears were ringing and our sanity was a little challenged by the time we figured out how to distract her. But, I digress…

We had a wonderful time visiting our family and seeing the sights in Colorado. We stayed with my husband’s Uncle and Aunt – who were amazing hosts. Not only did they feed us great food and provide a lovely and quiet place to stay, they showed us some beautiful and interesting sights – including the Garden of the Gods and the Mountain Zoo. We also hiked a little at Pike’s Peak (as far as you can with a four year old), visited Miramont Castle, a huge 46 room home built in 1895 by a Catholic priest (my geeky history buff side came out!), and walked through the Pioneer Museum. We actually had to leave the Pioneer Museum when our baby discovered that her scream sounded really cool with the echo effect of all the marble in the old building.

But, as much as I loved the incredible views, clean air, museums and hiking… my favorite aspect of the trip – by far – was the love we felt extended to us by our family. We had such a nice time visiting with all of them and our daughters loved playing with their little cousin who lives nearby. It was nice to just relax with all of them and enjoy each moment as it came. When it was time to leave and head home, we actually felt rested and ready to go. Tonight, I’m back home, staying up a little late to enjoy the sounds of my own home and savor the memory of last week. Hope you’re having a great summer too!