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It’s Not JUST the Short Shorts: Top 10 Reasons THIS is the Best Show Ever

By | Breastfeeding, Uncategorized | 9 Comments

I HATE summer TV. It’s so boring. I despise reality TV so I’m hurting for a good show in the summer. It’s hot, grumpy weather so I’m looking for lighthearted, enjoyable entertainment. While my husband and friends catch up on missed epis of Downtown Abbey (snore…), I prefer mystery (detective shows), especially if they’re funny.

This summer, I found the perfect, nostalgic show on Netflix streaming.

The character driven, humorous drama-dy (drama-comedy, get it?) set in the late 70’s, early ’80’s possesses a timeless appeal thanks to good writing and great chemistry amongst cast members. And, of course, it’s written and produced by Donald Bellisario, a name you’ll find associated with other popular shows like Blacksheep Squadron, JAG and current hit NCIS.

If you’re a friend, you already know the show because I’ve been peppering you with trivia about it lately. When I mentioned it to a friend the other day, she laughed and said, “Ew, he (the main character) always wore such short shorts!” While I question the validity of my friendship with someone who doesn’t find the man in the short shorts attractive, that’s not the only reason I love watching.

Have you figured it out yet?

It’s one of the best shows ever aired on network TV.

Magnum P.I., baby. That’s right. Pure awesome-ness.

Clearly I’ve spent way too much time watching this show. Heehee.

For proof, see observations AND trivia below.

1. Best theme song ever. It’s not the original used in the pilot and the first few episodes. It’s better. And, it’s a full minute long. So cool.

2. Breaking the Fourth Wall – Magnum’s looks at the audience in humorous moments. Not taking itself too seriously = Success.

 

3. Magnum’s.amazing.curly.hair.

4. Life in paradise. Mansion guest house, rad Ferrari, breathtaking surroundings. If you can’t go to Paradise, watch it.

5. The Ferrari . I.LOVE.THIS.CAR!!!!! How many times did he wreck that car anyway? For trivia freaks, he apparently drove two models – a 1978 308 GTS carbureted model and a 1983 308 GTSi QV. I stole that info off the web somewhere. Vrroomm!

5. Magnum’s 9 Lives – For a former special forces dude, Magnum’s pretty clutzy. It’s endearing. Nonetheless, he has a catlike ability to escape disaster.

6. Higgins, or as TC refers to him, Higgy-baby. I LOVE the dro-ll majordomo. He + Magnum = best frenemies ever. Even when they prove their friendship in dramatic, life saving episodes, they manage to return to their funny-antagonistic relationship very quickly. p.s. John Hillerman (Higgin’s real name) isn’t British at all. He was born in Texas. Yee-Haw!

7. TC and Rick. Brothers from another mother. They survived Vietnam together & T.C., Rick and Magnum have each other’s backs. Without Rick’s Chicago mob ties, TC’s helicopter & their willingness to jump into his cases Magnum’s success rate as a P.I. would not be nearly so high.

8. Magnum’s self-deprecating manner. Apparently Selleck’s character was originally written to be a lot more macho. He wasn’t yet a star but he lobbied for a less “superhero” character. Result? The funny, often-gets-his-butt-kicked, integrity filled Magnum we love today. Well, I love him anyway.

9. The way Magnum holds his gun. Like it’s a toy. I guess when you’re 6’3″ most handguns seem small enough to be toys. It always looks like a water pistol to me.

10. The short shorts. Come on people. You didn’t think I was gonna ignore those, did ya? Somehow he carries it off. TC and Rick’s unbuttoned shirts make this list too. Was this really the style??

Gotta say, beyond my top ten shallow reasons for watching Magnum P.I., I love the moral character aspect of this show. The main characters are men of integrity. They are honorable, loyal to friends & determined to stand up for justice. We could all use friends like these guys.

Plus, they seem like they’d be fun people to hang with, don’t they?

Summer’s almost coming to a close – so some of my ‘real’ shows will be airing again soon. But until then, I’ll be kickin’ back with Maganum (DGirl’s name for him) and his friends as they clear Hawaii of the bad guys.

How to Induce Labor Naturally or GET THIS BABY OUT!!!!

By | Natural Health, Pregnancy | 7 Comments

This is actually me with FOUR MONTHS left. You heard me. Imagine what I looked like on D Day! Or, don’t.

What really works to stimulate labor naturally? I never had to ask this question before my last baby. All my other kids were born early.

But with my last pregnancy, my estimated due date came and went,

and went,

and went.

Two weeks passed and we were close to having to schedule a medical induction because there are rules regarding how far past an estimated due date a midwife can attend a home birth in AZ. My midwife encouraged me to get this baby moving!

We were so far past the date that herbal methods like black and blue cohosh didn’t seem to be an appropriate choice and I only wanted to try those with a qualified herbalist’s advice.

Instead, I resorted to what all desperate mamas do in this situation. I googled “natural induction”. You can imagine the results. I got responses that ranged from the typical “baby comes when ready” to “eat pizza, pineapple and hot sauce”, preferably together. Ugh.

To be honest, I tried nearly everything except Castor Oil. (Well, ok, and the pineapple pizza with hot sauce.) The idea behind castor oil is that it cleans out a woman’s bowels, which are wrapped around her uterus. The movement is supposed to stimulate the uterus to contract. It worked for all the friends I’ve talked to who’ve tried it. But, I was grossed out by the thought and was afraid of being “sick” in labor. However, if what we used hadn’t worked, I would have tried it before resorting to a medical option.

The options below are from my own experience and I don’t recommend trying to induce labor earlier than a birth attendant suggests (midwife or OB). Babies really do have their own schedule and sometimes they need to go full term even if we feel ready. Always do your own homework and consult with your caregiver before trying any kind of induction methods, ‘kay? Just common sense here, people.

Here are the suggestions I used:

1. FOCUS on the task at hand. Having a baby requires focus and concentration.

2.  SEND the kids to Grandma’s (or your sister’s or your best friend…you get the point) if you have any. This goes with number one. Focus on the task. To do that – you might need your other peeps to give you a break. They can always come back when labor is progressing if you want them to attend the birth.

3. TALK to your baby. I’m not kidding. Find a quiet place. Tell  your baby you love him or her and are ready to meet them. Say it lovingly. Say it firmly. Say it with confidence and believe it. Say it out loud. You are the parent. Don’t be surprised when it works. Talking my kids into coming has sent me into labor all 3 times.

4. MOVE. As in walk. A LOT. I went Several MILES the day I went into labor. You can imagine how amazing that looked. I was Gi-gantic!

5. CONNECT with your partner. You made this beautiful life together. Be sure you’re ready to welcome it together as well. Seriously. If your partner has paternal leave, vacation time or sick time, ask him to stay home with you. When we hit the end of two weeks, Rob took off work to help me refocus and get things moving.

6. RELAX. Let your partner pamper you. Rob gave me a great massage that helped me relax and concentrate on the task at hand.

7. *****HAVE SEX.******  Boom, chicka, boom, boom, boom… Envision it. Yeah, that’s right. Pregnant women are sexy.

Seriously. I know, I know – some of you are thinking, “Really? I’m SO not in the mood” but – this works. Sperm is excellent for ripening the cervix. I could try to explain the science behind it but you can google it.
BUT – Don’t just have sex and get up to go to the bathroom like you usually would.

Have sex, then put your butt on a pillow and take a nap. Let that sperm hang out in there.

Your husband is cheering as you read this tip. Give the poor guy a break. Think of it as a last hurrah, something for him to hold on to in the sleepless, sexless nights to come while you’re recovering from birth. . 😉

**A friend recently asked if having a vasectomy will lesson the effectiveness of this step. The answer is – YES! A vasectomy blocks sperm from escaping. That’s how it prevents pregnancy. So, while you might get some contractions from the exercise and orgasms, there won’t be any sperm to soften the cervix. Do it anyway. It’s a great stress reliever!

8. PRAY and ask your friends to do the same. I sent out a request for prayer the day we stayed home to implement our “Get Giant baby out!” campaign and hundreds of my friends did just that. If you don’t believe in prayer, you can obviously skip it. But for me, knowing that friends who love me were thinking of me and were with me in spirit in that moment was a huge, huge encouragement.

9. – Think OPEN thoughts and take care of yourself. Imagine your pelvic floor as a wide open space to let that baby out.

10. *Castor oil. This should only be used after a chat with your OB or midwife. All the Mamas I know who used it drank the full 4 oz dose to get things moving. Eew. It’s kind of a last resort because  once you’ve done it, you can’t drink it again for several weeks.

11. Have Sex again. Seriously. Well, maybe BEFORE the castor oil. I don’t think I’d do it after. This IS THE SECRET TO GETTING THINGS MOVING! As many midwives say, “What put that baby in will get it out!” Just be sure you do it right. See step #7.

p.s. At 42 1/2 weeks, I delivered my 11lb 8oz baby naturally, at home with my midwife. Yeah, baby. I’m a rockstar now. Haha!

Seriously though, I wish I’d started going through this list a little sooner. Yeesh.

Think about your baby. Smile. Breathe deeply. TALK to that kid. YOU are the mama and you DO have influence over this experience.

I know we all have a plan for how we hope, expect, dream our baby will arrive. But in the end, if things don’t go as planned, be open to whatever is best for your family. Don’t linger on feeling guilty or disappointed if it doesn’t go exactly as you hoped. Just hold that sweet, squishy little baby and enjoy every minute.

*As always, I’ll remind you that I am not a doctor.  These are common sense choices I have made for myself. I have taken the time to research any health decisions I make and have consulted with my local herbalist and midwife. I encourage you to always do the same before choosing to take or administer any kind of remedywhether herbal, prescription or off the shelf at a local drugstore.**

Caring for Yourself, Mama. It’s a Life and Death Matter

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One of the things I constantly talk about in this space is the need for us Mamas to take time out to care for ourselves. This is not just about taking the time to enjoy life the way we were created to enjoy it. Though I do believe we are supposed to enjoy our lives right now.

Taking care of ourselves is important because it directly affects our ability to safely care for our sweet little ones.

Today’s post is meant to be a lesson to all of us as mothers (and dads) to re-evaluate our schedules and ensure that we are ~

Getting enough sleep to function safely

Living IN the current moment

Providing a safe environment for our kids

If you’re tired, Slow down. Pay attention. Minimize your activities.

Leave the laundry and go to bed early.

When we are exhausted, overbooked and distracted, accidents happen, our kids may be endangered and our lives can change in an instant.

I’m not being dramatic here. Today I am introducing you to a dear friend who actually experienced this in her life.

I want to be clear. My above comments are in no way intended as a critique of my friend as a mother or a caretaker of small children. I have known her for over twenty years – along with her mother, dad, sisters and husband. She is an excellent woman, caring, compassionate, thoughtful and intelligent. She is a CAREFUL caretaker of the lives entrusted to her. I love her and I would not hesitate to entrust my kids to her care.

But in one moment, her entire worldview was changed because of a tired, overscheduled day not very long after giving birth.

Her story could happen to any of us.

So – please. NO JUDGMENT.

I am sending you to her blog today. You, my dear friends, have been such an encouragement to me in times of grief and upheaval. Please extend to her the same kindness, the same love, the same encouragement.

Here is  Megan’s story.

http://www.o-show.blogspot.com/2012/08/yesterday-brought-me-to-my-knees.html

http://www.o-show.blogspot.com/2012/08/yesterday-brought-me-to-my-knees-part-2.html

 

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The Laundry Can Wait

By | Honest Mothering, Live NOW, Spirit | 2 Comments

Days filled with kids

Are also filled

With laundry

Dishes

And dirty floors

 

Playtime and bedtime

Seem like the best time

To get things done

Kids are occupied

And I can work

Uninterrupted

 

But today, 

Though the baby

was happy

And the older kids

were playing

I don’t get up

And rush around

To clean and accomplish

 

Instead, I relax

Cuddling the baby

Who won’t always be a baby

Watching his siblings

Who are growing

Too fast

But whose voices

still ring

With the sweetness

Of youth

 

Their laughter

And squeals

Echo through our small house

And reverberate in my heart

 

I feel a little rebellious

Not worrying

About being efficient

 

But a stronger

Sparkly feeling

Of joy

Fills my insides

And wraps

Around my whole being

 

I am reluctant

To miss the moment

Doing something so mundane

As laundry

 

So I don’t

 

I sit

And listen

And laugh

 

Homework questions

Ridiculous stories

Made up songs

About best friends

Dresses

Barbies

And the American flag

Are par

For the course

 

What can I say

We are

Equal opportunity artists

 

I let the baby “stay up”

While we eat dinner

Together

A rare event

With a small baby

 

We listen

Eat great food

And watch DGirl

Take bites

In between headstands

 

I don’t worry

About her tablemanners

For once

 

It is freeing

And a little

Like living

At the circus

Fun

And

A bit crazy

 

After dinner

Business

As usual

Commences

Showers

Storytime

Snuggling

 

I love the scent

The feel

The sound

Of my family

 

So I didn’t get

All the laundry done

Today

 

It will still be there

Tomorrow

 

I love my life

Laundry

And

All

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